Hi everyone! Welcome to my Medium profile! I’m writing this article so that new and old readers alike can learn a bit about me and find links to my most popular posts.
My name is Benya Clark and I’m a lawyer turned teacher turned writer. Although I write about a wide variety of topics on Medium, my most common one is addiction. I’m proudly sober since 12/31/16 and cigarette-free since 9/19/19. You can find my daily sobriety blog at Exploring Sobriety.
Aside from writing, my main hobbies in life are running, drawing, reading, and cooking. I’ve written posts here on…
I’ve been writing about sobriety for over two years, and blogging about it daily for the past four months. I know many people keep daily sobriety journals, but I’ve never heard of anyone else writing a daily reader-focused sobriety blog, so I thought it might be helpful to share my experiences with anyone thinking about doing something similar.
I quit drinking in December 2016. Roughly two years later, in October 2018, I began blogging about my experiences with addiction and sobriety.
Initially, I had only planned to write one post. My first article was about how I use to put…
One of the most common pieces of advice for sobriety is to talk to other people about what you’re going through. I can say without a doubt that it’s been one of the most important tools that I’ve used to quit drinking and stay sober for the past four years.
The only trouble with this advice is that for many recovering addicts, it’s far easier said than done. It wasn’t so easy to open up about my addiction after spending years doing everything I could to keep it hidden.
When I first became concerned about my drinking habit, I was…
Simon Pegg has had an impressive career as both a writer and an actor. He’s created cult comedy hits like Shaun of the Dead and been an integral part of two major film franchises: Star Trek and Mission Impossible. For science-fiction fans like myself, his full list of credits is truly awe-inspiring.
Throughout much of his public success, though, Pegg was also secretly struggling with depression and addiction. In an interview with The Guardian’s Tim Jonze, Pegg said that he had realized he had depression at just 18 years old, which was well before his film career had even begun.
I hope you all had a good weekend! It’s finally starting to warm up here in North Carolina, and hopefully the weather is great wherever each of you are as well!
This past week, my top post was about David Harbour’s struggle with addiction, and how much it reflected my own experience. I’m sure his story will resonate with many of you as well. You can read the post at: David Harbour on the Loneliness of Addiction.
I also added a new YouTube video: The Lie That Postponed My Sobriety for Years. …
I used to be a daily, heavy drinker with very little self-awareness. I was far more interested in getting drunk than developing my mindfulness.
Getting sober helped me to better understand myself, but I wasn’t always happy with what I discovered. One of my most upsetting realizations was that my years of drinking had dulled my personality.
I had spent years filling up the bulk of my free time with alcohol. Early on, I had managed to balance my drinking with a rich social life and interesting hobbies, but over the years these had all faded away without me noticing.
When I was in college, I started drinking and smoking heavily — far more than the typical college student. By the time I graduated, I had developed strong addictions to both nicotine and alcohol.
I smoked a pack of cigarettes and drank plenty of beer every day throughout my twenties. I made several attempts to quit each of my habits during that time, but it wasn’t until I was 29 that I started making any headway.
Initially, I just quit smoking. But then, shortly afterward, I was able to stop drinking also.
Sadly, that isn’t where the story ended. Breaking…
I’m a recovering alcoholic. I started drinking heavily in college and became a daily drinker around the time I graduated. I continued to drink every day for years, until finally quitting just before I turned thirty.
Throughout that time, I tried countless approaches when it came to my drinking habit. Ultimately though, they can be distilled down to three basic strategies: the first was to ignore it, the second was to reduce my drinking, and the third was to cut out drinking entirely.
I used to think that the easiest option was to simply ignore my drinking problem. Of course…
I had a headache last night, and nowadays, that’s a noteworthy event. It had been months since my last one, and it will likely be months before I have another.
These days, headaches are simply not a part of my daily life. However, that hasn’t always been the case.
When I think back to five years ago, I remember getting headaches almost every day. Some days, I’d wake up with my head already pounding. Other days, it would take a few hours for the headache to kick in.
Sometimes the pain was awful, other times fairly mild. But although the…
David Harbour quit drinking at a young age. The actor, who is best known for playing Jim Hopper in Stranger Things, got sober at just 24 years old.
As an alcoholic myself, I know how unusual it is to stop drinking at such an early age. When I first tried to quit, I was in my early twenties, only one year out of college.
I went to AA meetings daily, and was often the youngest person in the room. …