Hi everyone! Welcome to my Medium profile! I’m writing this article so that new and old readers alike can learn a bit about me and find links to my most popular posts.
My name is Benya Clark and I’m a lawyer turned teacher turned writer. Although I write about a wide variety of topics on Medium, my most common one is addiction. I’m proudly sober since 12/31/16 and cigarette-free since 9/19/19. You can find my daily sobriety blog at Exploring Sobriety.
Aside from writing, my main hobbies in life are running, drawing, reading, and cooking. I’ve written posts here on…
For the past half year, I’ve had a standing offer to provide free feedback to any new Medium writers who want a second set of eyes on their profile. I do it as a fun way to give back to the Medium community, but it’s also taught me a lot about where new Medium writers go wrong.
Below are some easy tips that will help new writers, and even some experienced ones, improve their use of the platform and — hopefully — grow their audience. These tips are based on where I’ve seen new writers most often make mistakes. …
Alcohol abuse comes in many shapes and sizes. For some, it’s a steady, daily drinking habit. For others, it’s binge drinking on the weekends.
For John Stamos, alcohol abuse came in waves. At times, he would lose himself in alcohol. In 2016, he told Howard Stern that whenever he went back to alcohol, “it just sort of deteriorated my life, and who I was, and my morals and my values.”
However, despite these harmful effects, Stamos felt like he had things under control because he could always stop when he needed to. …
Hope you all had a great weekend!
Last Friday, I wrote a post called The Biggest Surprises When I Quit Drinking. I don’t think getting sober ever goes exactly the way that we expect. There were some parts of sobriety that were disappointing to me. Others went better than expected. You can check out the post here.
There were two other posts from last week:
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Thank you very much for reading! Have a great week!
I knew what to expect during my first week sober. I had “quit drinking” many times before, and although I rarely made it more than a week, I had those first seven days down pat.
However, as it turns out, the first week of sobriety isn’t very representative of the rest. When I finally succeeded at staying sober for more than a week at a time, I found plenty of surprises. Some were pleasant, others quite miserable.
One of the things that surprised me early on in my sobriety was that I suddenly had way too much free time.
What’s the single most important piece of sobriety advice that you’ve ever heard?
For me, it’s something simple but powerful: don’t go at it alone.
Although nobody can do the hard work of getting sober for you, there are plenty of people who are able and willing to help.
Getting support from others, especially fellow recovering alcoholics, can make sobriety a far easier and less overwhelming experience. I truly don’t believe I would have been able to stay alcohol-free if I had tried to get sober without any help.
“Don’t go at it alone,” might sound like obvious advice, but…
Addicts are selfish. It’s a generalization, but as far as generalizations go, it’s a pretty accurate one.
Without a doubt, I can say that I was a selfish addict.
I was a heavy, daily drinker throughout my twenties. I don’t believe that alcoholism is a selfish act in and of itself — addiction is a medical and psychological problem, not a moral affliction. With that said, there’s absolutely no question that I behaved incredibly selfishly during those years.
When I was drinking daily, I didn’t give much thought to how my actions affected others. I put myself above everyone else.
I hope your week is starting well. This year I’ve been writing about a lot of sober celebrities. A few months ago I rounded up the first ten posts, and last week I rounded up the next ten. Check them out at:
These are all celebrities who have been proud and vocal about their sobriety. I think that these stories are great for breaking the stigma surrounding addiction and for inspiring people who want to quit drinking. I hope you enjoy reading them!
By the way, I recently received my 20th “tip” through Ko-Fi. Thank you so, so much to everyone who has supported me through the site! If you enjoy my writing, please consider buying me a virtual “coffee.” Thank you!
Thank you for reading and have a great week!
I lost count of the number of times I planned to quit drinking and didn’t follow through. Sometimes I’d last a week without alcohol before caving in. Other times, I’d last just a day.
Most often, my sobriety attempts would be over before they had even begun. I would go to sleep drunk, planning to quit drinking the next day, but then change my mind by the following evening.
I was stuck in a loop and it was exhausting. I was sick of talking myself into and out of drinking. I was sick of going through a few days of…
I’ve had a lot of beer in my life, and that’s an understatement. In fact, I drank beer every single day for the vast majority of my adulthood.
I used to say that I loved the stuff. I couldn’t get enough of the bitter hops, always searching for the strongest IPAs I could find.
During my drinking years, I was really into craft beers. Despite drinking so much, I was always happy to shell out extra cash for the expensive booze. I spent hundreds of dollars on beer every month, thousands each year.
Of course, drinking every day wasn’t healthy…