Hi everyone! Welcome to my Medium profile! I’m writing this article so that new and old readers alike can learn a bit about me and find links to my most popular posts.
My name is Benya Clark and I’m a lawyer turned teacher turned writer. Although I write about a wide variety of topics on Medium, my most common one is addiction. I’m proudly sober since 12/31/16 and cigarette-free since 9/19/19. You can find my daily sobriety blog at Exploring Sobriety.
Aside from writing, my main hobbies in life are running, drawing, reading, and cooking. I’ve written posts here on…
Skateboarder Ryan Sheckler first got sober in 2016, when he was just 26 years old. After four years sober, he stumbled in 2020 with a failed attempt at moderation. These days, however, he’s back on the wagon, and earlier this week he opened up about his sobriety journey in a very interesting interview on In Depth with Graham Bensinger.
Sheckler started his skateboarding career at a very young age — his first sponsorship came at age 7, and he joined his first pro team at just 13. By the end of his teenage years, his fame had skyrocketed thanks to…
My decision to quit drinking didn’t come easily to me. I had to wade through a giant pool of self-doubt before I was ready to even consider whether I had a drinking problem.
For outsiders, it’s probably difficult to understand just how hard it is for an alcoholic to admit to themselves that they’re having trouble. It’s even harder to take the next step and admit it to anyone else.
Addiction tends to go hand-in-hand with a pervasive form of denial that just isn’t easily overcome. …
I know it’s become a bit of a cliché to say this, but I’m a goal-driven person. The simple truth is that I struggle to get much of anything done if I don’t have a defined goal and a clear plan of how to get there.
I set goals in every area of my life, and my writing habit is no exception. Typically, I aim for a specific quantity of writing (for example, 2000 words a day), or a certain frequency (such as writing 5 days a week). …
I got sober near the very end of 2016. Before that, I spent quite a few years asking myself the same question: “Am I an alcoholic?”
During those years, I was fixated primarily on the amount I drank. I paid close attention to how many beers I went through and I used that number to judge the severity of my drinking problem.
I knew that at roughly six beers a day, I had well exceeded the CDC guidelines. They define “heavy drinking” for men as 15 drinks or more per week, and “binge drinking” for men as 5 or more…
I hope you’re doing well! Last week, my most popular post was: Did Chrissy Teigen Announce Her Sobriety Too Soon? Of course, if you’ve been reading my writing for long, you can probably guess that my answer is no. In that post, I also shared my own experiences with blogging about addiction. You can check out the entire post here.
That’s the only “Exploring Sobriety” news for this week, but I also wanted to share another Medium project I’ve been working on: a pay-what-you-want course for writers. This is meant to serve as an alternative to all of the high-cost writing courses that have been popping up lately. You can complete the entire thing for free! Check it out here.
Thank you all for reading, and have a great week!
For the past month, I’ve been working on a secret project: a Medium course run entirely on a pay-what-you-want model.
To put it plainly, this course is a comprehensive guide to getting started and growing on Medium, and the cost is entirely up to you. You can access the entire course without paying a dime or even giving me your email address.
All of the content is completely, freely available, and I’ve also strived to create the highest quality course I could. It’s short, but packed with solid, actionable information. …
I used to worry that I would flip back and forth between heavy drinking and heavy smoking for the rest of my life.
My addictions to alcohol and nicotine developed hand-in-hand. I started experimenting with both in high school, and became a daily drinker and smoker in college.
For the ten years that followed, drinking and smoking cigarettes were a normal part of my daily routine. I tried to quit both substances throughout my twenties, but without any notable success. I’d rarely last more than a day without either one.
It wasn’t until I was 29 that I finally started…
These days, I have an optimistic outlook on life, but that certainly hasn’t always been the case. Until about four years ago, I was a daily, heavy drinker with a decidedly cynical and pessimistic worldview.
My cynicism was perhaps most apparent when I started trying to get sober. I remember scoffing at most of the sobriety advice that I heard.
Some of the advice came across as woefully out of touch. For example, many recovering addicts praised the role that exercise had played in their recovery. …
Last year, Chrissy Teigen announced to her fans that she had quit drinking through a series of posts on Instagram.
Her first mention of her sobriety came in December, just four weeks after she quit. Most of the responses that she received were incredibly supportive. In the months that followed, many people said that she had inspired them to reexamine their relationship with alcohol too. In fact, after Teigen said that the book “Quit Like a Woman” had inspired her to quit, it sold out worldwide.
However, there were also many commenters who criticized Teigen for announcing her sobriety too…