Hello, and welcome to my Medium profile! It’s been over half a year since I wrote an “about me” post, so I figured it was time for an update. I’ll be pinning this post to the top of my profile so that new and old readers alike can learn a bit more about me.
My name is Benya Clark, and I’m a lawyer turned test-prep teacher turned writer. I began my legal career as an assistant public defender, which had been my dream job since childhood. I ended up washing out in less than a year.
After leaving the public…
When we talk about getting and staying sober, we often focus on strategies that directly address our addiction. However, in my experience, one of the most important ways of protecting my sobriety has simply been to pursue a healthy, well-rounded lifestyle.
Since quitting drinking, I’ve developed many habits with this aim. On their surface, these habits aren’t obviously connected with sobriety, yet they’ve been absolutely essential to my recovery.
Below are five of the habits that have had the biggest impact on my sobriety, and which I recommend to anyone in their first year of recovery.
I’m sure you’ve heard…
Earlier this year, one of my articles about sobriety got a big spike in traffic from Reddit. I never post my own articles there, so I was curious to know more precisely where the views were coming from. With a little Google-sleuthing, I was able to track down the source.
I was expecting a sobriety forum, but it turned out that my article had been posted to an extremely popular religion forum instead. I’m not going to link to that post or name the subreddit, because I don’t want to cause an inadvertent witch hunt.
My article had received hundreds…
I quit drinking on December 31, 2016, but my road to sobriety started seven years earlier.
Back in 2009, I was in my first year out of college and at one of the lowest points of my life. I worked from home as a freelance writer, a job which enabled me to form a slew of bad habits.
All day long, I’d sit at home drinking beer and smoking cigarettes. I never exercised, rarely saw friends, and didn’t even get much work done. …
I’ve been a total jerk today.
I woke up on the wrong side of the bed this morning and have been taking it out on everyone around me ever since. I’ve been getting bothered by every little thing that anyone does, no matter how innocuous, and I haven’t been shy about letting them know.
I spent the better part of my morning and afternoon snapping at people for no reason whatsoever. It was awful of me, and I really have no excuse. …
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I hope you’ve all had an awesome week. Last week, I wrote an article about Jackass’s Steve-O, who has been happily sober for over a decade. When he talks about getting sober, one of his most common themes is working with other addicts. Instead of trying to tackle addiction alone, he says it’s necessary…
I quit smoking exactly two years ago, on September 19, 2019. My pack-a-day smoking habit had started over a decade earlier, and I often doubted that I’d ever be able to give it up. But, for the past two years, I’ve been completely, 100% cigarette free.
To celebrate this milestone, I wanted to share the story of my addiction, from start to finish. I hope that my journey might help some of you who are still struggling to quit.
Why would anyone start smoking in this day and age? The dangers of cigarettes have been well-documented since long before I…
Steve-O (born Stephen Glover) rose to fame at the start of the millennium as one of the stars of Jackass. He was known for idiotic but hilarious stunts that often involved inflicting immense amounts of pain on himself and his friends.
I don’t think it would surprise anyone to learn that Steve-O tore through drugs and alcohol at the time. During those years, he was risking his health from two directions: performing painful stunts and abusing mind-altering substances.
In an interview on In Depth with Graham Bensinger, Steve-O summed it up by saying “I don’t what’s been more dangerous for…
When my alcoholism was at its worst, I used to love daydreaming about sobriety. I had a very specific idea in my head of what it would be like to finally get sober.
I didn’t just plan to quit drinking; I expected to turn my entire life around overnight. I imagined that the next morning I’d wake up and live every moment of my life to its fullest.
I’d stop smoking cigarettes. I’d stop procrastinating. I’d stop playing video games and watching television for hours every day. In their place, I’d start reading more. I’d learn a foreign language. …
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