Hi Karen,
My heart goes out to you because I’m sure it’s incredibly hard to be in your position. I wish I had useful advice to give, but I’m not sure I do. I can tell you that in my case, I don’t think anyone else (including my parents) could have done much to help me until I really believed I was ready to quit. Don’t lose hope though— almost everyone I know who got sober had a lot of setbacks along the way.